When I married into a Maharashtrian family, I was excited, curious, and honestly a little overwhelmed. I wanted to fit in, be respectful, and truly understand the beautiful culture I was becoming part of. But I had questions—lots of them. Here are 30 things I was curious about in the beginning, along with what I learned along the way:
- What should I call my in-laws?
In Marathi, the mother-in-law is “Aaee” and the father-in-law is “Baba.” It felt personal at first, but using these names really helped me become part of the family. - What’s expected from a daughter-in-law or son-in-law?
There’s warmth and acceptance, but also unspoken expectations—being respectful, joining in family occasions, and making an effort with language and food are big plus points. - Do family members usually live together or separately after marriage?
It depends. Many urban Maharashtrian families live independently, but family visits (and sometimes long stays) are common. - Is it common to greet elders with a namaste or touch their feet?
Yes. A simple “Namaskaar” with folded hands or touching feet (especially at festivals or special moments) shows respect. - How involved are extended family members?
Very! Cousins, uncles, aunties—they’re all part of the inner circle and often stay closely connected. - What do Maharashtrians eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner?
Poha, upma, thalipeeth for breakfast. Rice, dal, vegetables, and poli (chapati) for lunch and dinner. Simple, fresh, and comforting. - Are there any food taboos or vegetarian days?
Yes, some families avoid meat on Mondays or Thursdays, especially during certain festivals. It’s respectful to ask in advance. - What dishes should I learn to cook (or at least recognize)?
Sabudana khichdi, puran poli, varan-bhaat, and zunka-bhakri are classics! (We will make a list of easy recipes for you!) - How spicy is the food? Can I ask for it to be milder?
It varies, but yes, you can ask for it to be mild. Just say, “Please kamee teekhat karaa na” (Please make it less spicy). -
What are common eating habits?
Eating with hands is common (especially for traditional meals), and everyone usually eats together if possible. - Which festivals are most important in a Marathi household?
Ganesh Chaturthi, Gudi Padwa, Diwali, and Makar Sankranti are huge. Prepare for food, family, and a lot of tradition! - What am I expected to do or wear during festivals?
Wearing traditional clothes (saree or kurta), helping with decorations or food, and joining in the puja shows respect. - Do I need to participate in rituals or poojas?
It’s appreciated if you do, even just by observing. You don’t need to know everything—just ask and join in. - Are there specific customs around fasts or upvaas?
Yes. Some women fast on Mondays (for Lord Shiva) or Fridays. You don’t have to participate unless you want to. - How should I prepare for a Marathi wedding?
Learn about key rituals like “Halad,” “Simanti Poojan”, “Sankalp,” and “Saptapadi.” Dress well and get ready for dancing! - How much Marathi should I speak?
Even learning a few phrases shows effort. Everyone appreciates it. “Kasey aahat?” (How are you?) goes a long way. - Will people understand if I use English?
Yes, especially in urban families. But mixing English with basic Marathi is very normal. - Are there common phrases I can use to make in-laws feel comfortable?
“Mee shikatey/shikato(masculine) aahey” (I am learning), “Khoop chaan” (Very nice), and “Arey waah” (Wow!) are cute starters. - Is it okay to mix English and Marathi in conversations?
Totally. That’s exactly how many people speak—Marathi-English mix is the norm! -
What are some polite ways to say “no” in Marathi culture?
A soft smile with “Nako” or “Nantar chaleyl?” (Maybe later) works well. Directness can feel a bit harsh. - Will there be pressure to raise our kids with Marathi as their first language?
Not pressure, but encouragement. It’s seen as a way to stay connected with roots and grandparents. - What are some Marathi baby names and their meanings?
Names like Advait (unique), Ovee (a poetic structure), Avani (Mother Earth), Rama (Goddess Lakshmi) and Atharv (Lord Ganesh) are popular and meaningful. - How can I read Marathi books to my child if I’m still learning?
Start with picture books. Your partner or in-laws will love helping you! - What role do traditions like Halad-Koonkoo or Mangalsutra play after the wedding?
They symbolize blessings, protection, and marital status. Many women wear a mangalsutra daily or on special occasions. - Are anniversaries celebrated? Or is that seen as too Western?
They’re celebrated more privately—dinner, flowers, or a family visit. Not over-the-top but still sweet. - Are there expectations on how I dress post-marriage?
Traditional wear (like saree or kurti) is appreciated during festivals or family events. But day-to-day, be yourself. - Do Maharashtrian couples show affection publicly?
It’s subtle. Holding hands is fine, but more than that might be saved for private moments. - Is it okay to drink alcohol at social gatherings?
Depends on the family. Some are okay with it; some are traditional. It’s best to ask your partner first. - How do I politely decline food without offending anyone?
Say “Poat bharl-uh” (I’m full) with a smile. But don’t be surprised if they still insist! - What do people usually talk about at family get-togethers?
Everything from politics to food to family gossip. Jump in with a smile, and you’ll feel part of the gang in no time.
If you’re newly married into a Marathi family, take it slow, stay open, and enjoy the ride. The language will come, the rituals will make sense, and soon enough, you’ll feel like you were always part of this warm, lively, and loving world.